Grant waited until breakfast was nearly over before asking me.
"What do you want from me, Claire?"
I set my cup down.
For a moment, I thought I had misunderstood him.
He had spent days asking me to wait, asking me to be reasonable, and asking me to give him time to figure out what he wanted.
Now he wanted my answer.
"I want the truth."
He looked tired.
"You know the truth."
"No. I know what you've admitted."
He stared at the table.
I could see him turning that distinction over in his mind.
He wanted the conversation to be finished.
I wanted to understand what I was being asked to live with.
"Is there anything else I should know about Savannah?" I asked.
He rubbed his thumb along the edge of his coffee cup.
"She's pregnant."
"I know."
"We're engaged."
"I know that, too."
He looked up.
"Then what else do you want?"
I took a breath.
"Did you ever intend to tell me before I found out?"
He didn't answer.
I waited.
The kitchen clock ticked above the doorway.
A drop of coffee slid down the side of his cup and gathered on the table.
He wiped it away with his thumb.
Finally, he said, "I was trying to work out how to handle everything."
I looked at him.
"Everything except telling me the truth."
His shoulders tightened.
"I knew you'd be hurt."
"That didn't stop you from doing it."
He pushed his chair back slightly.
"I can't change what happened."
"No."
I picked up my cup again.
"But you can stop pretending you had no choice."
He looked at me for a long time.
Then he stood and carried his dishes to the sink.
I watched him rinse them.
It was such a familiar movement that I felt a brief, unwelcome ache.
There had been years when we had done these things without thinking.
One of us washed.
The other dried.
We talked about our day, our plans, and the small inconveniences that made up an ordinary life.
I had thought those moments were proof that we belonged together.
Now I understood that a routine could continue even after the trust beneath it had broken.
Grant turned off the tap.
"I need to speak to Savannah."
I nodded.
"Then speak to her."
He looked surprised.
"You don't want to know what I'm going to say?"
I considered that.
Once, I would have wanted every detail.
I would have asked where they planned to meet and whether he intended to tell her about our conversation.
I would have wanted to know whether he was going to cancel the wedding or ask her to wait.
I would have treated his decision as if it were the answer to a question about my own worth.
I didn't want to do that anymore.
"What you tell her is your responsibility."
He lowered his eyes.
"And what about us?"
I looked at him.
"I have my own decisions to make."
He left the kitchen without another word.
I heard him walk upstairs.
A few minutes later, the front door closed.
I stood beside the sink and listened to the silence.
I didn't know whether he had gone to work or intended to meet Savannah.
I didn't check.
That was the first change I noticed in myself.
Not courage.
Not strength.
Simply the absence of an old habit.
I no longer felt compelled to follow every movement he made.
That afternoon, I took the folder out of the drawer and placed it in my handbag.
I checked the papers inside.
Then I returned the bag to its place.
I was not preparing for a confrontation.
I was preparing for a future in which I could make decisions without asking Grant to agree that I had a right to make them.
When he returned that evening, he looked as though he hadn't slept.
He stood in the doorway while I sat at the table.
"We need to talk."
I closed the book I was reading.
"All right."
He sat opposite me.
"I spoke to Savannah."
I waited.
He rubbed his hands together.
"She was upset."
I could imagine that.
She had announced her engagement with a confidence that now seemed misplaced.
She had worn her ring openly and given me the wedding date as if the matter were settled.
Now she had discovered that Grant's future with me was not as simple as he had allowed her to believe.
"What did you tell her?" I asked.
He looked at me.
"That I needed time."
I felt my stomach tighten.
"You asked her to wait?"
He nodded.
I looked down at my hands.
There it was.
He had asked me to wait while he decided what he wanted.
Now he had asked her to wait, too.
He was trying to preserve both possibilities.
I couldn't tell whether he understood what he was doing.
Perhaps he believed that more time would give him clarity.
Perhaps he thought he could postpone the consequences until he felt ready to face them.
But his uncertainty was no longer something I was willing to organize my life around.
"Did she agree?"
He hesitated.
"She said she needed to think."
I nodded.
That was fair.
Savannah had her own choices to make.
She had agreed to an engagement with a married man whose wife had not yet been told the truth.
Whatever she believed about our marriage, she now knew there were things Grant had not explained.
She was entitled to decide what that meant for her.
I wasn't going to tell her what to do.
Grant leaned forward.
"I told her I still care about you."
The words surprised me.
I looked at him.
"Why?"
He frowned.
"What do you mean?"
"Why did you tell her that?"
He opened his mouth, then closed it.
I waited.
"I didn't want her to think I had lied about everything."
I looked at him for a long moment.
He had finally said something that made the shape of his problem clear.
He wanted Savannah to believe his promises had meant something.
He wanted me to believe our marriage had meant something.
He wanted both of us to accept that he had feelings for each of us, as though that fact explained what he had done.
Perhaps he did care about us both.
But caring did not excuse the choices he had made.
"Your feelings are yours, Grant."
He looked down.
"What am I supposed to do?"
I stood and picked up my book.
"Decide what kind of man you want to be."
He looked at me sharply.
I didn't mean it as an insult.
I meant it as the question he kept avoiding.
He wanted me to tell him whether to stay or leave.
He wanted Savannah to wait while he thought about it.
He wanted a decision that would spare him the pain of admitting that he had already hurt everyone involved.
I could not make that decision for him.
I walked toward the stairs.
Behind me, he said my name.
I stopped but didn't turn.
"I never wanted to lose you."
I closed my eyes for a moment.
There had been a time when those words would have reached straight through me.
I might have turned around.
I might have asked him to prove it.
I might have offered him one more chance to explain.
Instead, I answered honestly.
"You should have thought about that before you made promises to someone else."
Then I went upstairs.
That night, I slept better than I had in weeks.
Not because anything had been resolved.
Because I had finally stopped treating Grant's indecision as a problem I could solve by being patient enough.
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