I stayed beside Daniel for a while, watching the guests gather around the tables.
Nobody seemed to know exactly what to do with themselves.
Some people talked quietly about Jack.
Others discussed practical things, like when they needed to leave or whether someone had collected the flowers from the chapel.
Grief made ordinary conversations feel strange.
I found myself listening to people talk about sandwiches while remembering my son would never eat another one in our kitchen.
Then Theo came into the room with Emma.
He had stopped holding the folded note, but I knew he hadn't put it far away.
He looked tired.
I wondered how much courage it had taken to walk into the chapel that morning, knowing what people might think.
Emma touched his shoulder.
"You all right?"
Theo nodded.
"Mostly."
She glanced at me, then back at him.
"You did what you said you'd do."
He gave a small smile.
"Yeah."
She hugged him.
For a moment, they stood together without speaking.
I looked away to give them privacy, though I was grateful to see someone taking care of him.
Theo had spent so much of Jack's illness taking care of my son.
That morning, he needed someone to take care of him too.
Daniel and I eventually joined them.
I didn't know what to say at first.
There were so many things I wanted to tell Theo, but every sentence I thought of seemed too small.
Thank you.
I'm sorry.
Jack loved you.
None of them felt sufficient.
So I started with the simplest thing.
"Would you sit with us for a while?"
Theo looked surprised.
"Of course."
We found seats at a table near the windows.
Emma went to speak with some of Jack's school friends, leaving Theo with us.
For a few minutes, we talked about nothing important.
Daniel asked whether Theo had eaten.
Theo said he hadn't really thought about it.
I brought him a plate.
He protested that he wasn't hungry, but he took it anyway.
There was something painfully familiar about that small exchange.
Jack had often refused food when he was tired, then eaten half a sandwich once it was placed in front of him.
I had spent months trying to persuade him to eat.
Now I found myself offering food to the boy who had sat beside him through so many of those afternoons.
Theo picked up a sandwich and took a bite.
Daniel watched him quietly.
Finally, my husband spoke.
"I owe you an apology."
Theo stopped chewing.
"For what?"
Daniel looked down at the table.
"When you walked in, I was ready to confront you."
Theo swallowed.
"I noticed."
Daniel let out a breath.
"I thought you were doing something inappropriate. I didn't even consider that there might be a reason."
Theo didn't answer.
My husband continued.
"I should've asked you before I judged you."
He looked up.
"I'm sorry."
Theo's expression softened.
"I understand why you were upset."
"That doesn't make it right."
"No."
Theo paused.
"But I understand."
Daniel nodded.
It wasn't a dramatic reconciliation.
Nobody stood up to make a speech.
There was no sudden change that erased what had happened earlier.
There was only a father admitting he had been wrong to a young man who had just lost his best friend.
That was enough for the moment.
I reached across the table and touched Theo's hand.
"I was thinking the same thing Daniel was."
Theo looked at me.
"I thought you were trying to make a statement."
He lowered his eyes.
"I wasn't."
"I know that now."
I swallowed.
"I'm sorry I didn't know it sooner."
Theo squeezed my hand.
"You didn't know about the promise."
I shook my head.
"No. But I could have asked."
He seemed to consider that.
Then he nodded.
"Yeah. You could have."
His honesty hurt a little.
It also made me trust him more.
He wasn't pretending we had done nothing wrong simply because we were grieving parents.
He understood our pain, but he hadn't forgotten his own.
I was glad he didn't feel he had to.
Daniel leaned back in his chair.
"Jack really did plan the whole thing, didn't he?"
Theo smiled.
"He planned enough of it."
"What does that mean?"
Theo gave a small laugh.
"He didn't pick the dress. He just said it had to be red."
I looked at the fabric.
"So you had to find one yourself."
"My sister had this one."
He glanced toward Emma.
"She didn't make it easy."
Emma, who had returned to the table, heard him.
"I lent you a dress. I didn't promise to help you enjoy wearing it."
Theo shook his head.
"I wasn't asking you to enjoy it."
"Good."
We all laughed.
It was a small moment.
But it felt like a door opening onto something familiar.
For months, our family conversations had revolved around Jack's condition.
We had discussed symptoms, appointments, treatment schedules, and the questions we needed to ask the doctors.
We had learned how to speak carefully around uncertainty.
We had forgotten how to let a conversation wander.
Now Emma was teasing her brother, Daniel was smiling, and Theo was making the same irritated face I had seen him make when he was twelve.
For a few seconds, I could almost imagine Jack sitting beside him.
Then the feeling passed.
I didn't try to hold on to it.
I was beginning to understand that remembering Jack didn't mean I could bring him back into every room.
Sometimes a memory was enough.
After Emma left to join the other guests, Theo remained with us.
I asked him about the seven-page eulogy.
He groaned.
"I spent ages writing it."
"Why didn't you read it?"
He looked at me as if the answer should have been obvious.
"Jack would've hated it."
Daniel smiled.
"You could've shortened it."
"I did."
"To how many pages?"
"Seven."
I laughed again.
Theo looked pleased with himself.
"He would've interrupted me before I reached page two."
I could picture it.
Jack would have found a way to complain about the speech, probably while insisting that Theo was doing a wonderful job.
He might even have asked whether the dress had a matching hat.
I told Theo that the memories he shared had been exactly what we needed.
He looked down at his plate.
"I didn't want to talk about him like he was only sick."
I felt my throat tighten.
"Thank you."
Theo shook his head.
"I mean, he was sick. We all knew that. But he was still himself."
He glanced at Daniel.
"He still argued about movies. He still wanted to know what everyone else was doing. He still made plans."
Daniel rubbed his forehead.
"I wish we'd had more time."
Theo's face grew quiet.
"Me too."
Neither of them tried to make the feeling smaller.
We sat there for a while, letting the truth remain what it was.
There would never be enough time.
Not for Jack.
Not for us.
Not for Theo, who had known him since childhood and had expected their friendship to stretch into adulthood.
Eventually, guests began saying their goodbyes.
People collected coats and checked their phones.
The room slowly emptied.
Theo stood and asked whether I needed help gathering the photographs.
I told him we could manage.
He offered again.
I accepted.
We walked back toward the table near the chapel entrance, where the pictures had been displayed.
The photograph of the boys at eight was still there.
Theo picked it up carefully.
He looked at their muddy faces.
"Jack was so proud of that day."
"What happened?"
Theo smiled.
"He thought he'd invented a new way to jump over the garden hose."
I laughed.
"Did it work?"
"Not even a little."
He held the photograph for another moment.
"His shoes were ruined."
"I remember."
"He told me it was worth it."
Theo returned the picture to its place.
I watched him do it.
He had spent the day keeping a promise that most of us had initially misunderstood.
Now he was standing beside a photograph of two children who had no idea how much life would ask of them.
I wished I could tell those boys that they would have years of friendship ahead.
I wished I could promise that Jack would grow up, finish school, travel, and make all the plans he had talked about.
But the promise I wanted to make was one I couldn't keep.
So I did something else.
I placed my hand on Theo's shoulder.
"You don't have to look after us every minute, you know."
He turned toward me.
"What do you mean?"
"You've been there for Jack through everything. You don't have to spend the rest of the day making sure we're all right."
Theo looked down at the photograph.
"I know."
He paused.
"I just don't know what else to do."
That answer stayed with me.
Because I didn't know what else to do either.
We had lost Jack.
The world expected us to continue living, but none of us had been given instructions for how to do it.
Theo had at least been given one clear task.
Wear the red dress.
Speak at the funeral.
Keep the promise.
Now that he had done those things, he was left with the same emptiness the rest of us carried.
I squeezed his shoulder.
"We'll figure it out."
He nodded.
Neither of us knew how long that would take.
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